Dear Joey,
It’s Halloween 2021. I’m kind of anxious because I’m starting to forget. Forget what we did on Halloween. Forgot if we dressed up or if I was even available at all or too busy smoking meth and avoiding your calls. I forgot if this was just another holiday I ruined for you. I’m also forgetting what it felt like to loose you. To feel that crazy. To feel that low. To feel like THAT.
You are 25 now I think? I wonder what your like. How you have changed. If maybe now you can understand why I tried to push you away from me when I would say I was “too old”. Dann said something about he thought you lived in Joliet with your boyfriend. If that’s the case, I hope you’re happy, but like I always say “When I was your age I needed to EXPLORE!” Then you, in turn, would remind me that not everyone needs to live the crazy life that I did. I do now, agree with you.
Time marches on and people heal. As much as I know I hurt you, you hurt me back probably harder. I am a better man because of it and you never chose to know the man I am today. You ignored me and I grew. Thank you. Still, I never wanted to forget because I thought clinging to that pain would somehow keep me from making mistakes again, kept me humble. It maybe worked for many years but it also had me feeling like I didn’t deserve anything good that was happening. Anytime I succeeded I always needed a day to convince myself that I was worth it. I have found something else to replace that pain that also keeps me moving forward and that is called LOVE. My husband has made it possible for me to stop feeling guilty for growing, for setting goals and getting what I need as well as what I want without feeling undeserving. I no long need the guilt to keep me grounded. I have moved past that. It’s different now.
Writing to you has proven to be theraputic by allowing me to really dig deep into myself for the meaning and purpose behind my addiction, mental illness, and recovery. I don’t understand why it was so necessary for me to make sure you knew I was suffering. Maybe so you saw I was miserable and I could say we were even and have closure. Everything we went through landed me right were I am today and I swear today I look around at my beautiful life and I can’t imagine being any where else.